I married the first man I ever kissed. When I tell my children that they just about throw up.

~ Barbara Bush ~

Wishing You a Happy You Year!

December 21st, 2011 ~ Est. reading time: 2 mins, 9 secs

A Happy You Year? What's that?

Yes, I mean it. It’s no typo.  It doesn’t matter whether you shed the weight you want to, or give up the cancer sticks as part of your New Year’s resolutions. The important message I want to convey to you is that the best thing you can do in 2012 is to decide on having a happy you year.

How do you do that? Well, you might have a happy you year by filling it with endless entertainment, fun, and frolic. But I’m guessing your pockets are pretty cleaned out already (blame the Christmas thing). So I don’t suppose you’ll be partying that much throughout the season, let alone the year, when all you’ve got is a batch of bills and leftovers in the fridge. You could run around the neighborhood waving a few half flat balloons, shouting, “Hey everybody! It’s my happy you year!” But somehow, I don’t think so.

So how, when you’re half broke, overworked, and exhausted, can anything like this so-called happy you year phenomenon occur? I know. People say such stupid things sometimes (never me…ahem). They’ll say, “Put on a happy face and the world is yours.”  Last time I tried that, I was told to “get rid of that ridiculous grin.”

Or, with all the sincerity in the world someone will tell you that you can be as happy as you want to be. Now to me, that’s a bit of a backhander. What they’re saying is, “Take a concrete pill and toughen up. Get over yourself stop being a wimp.” 

But that only makes you feel like it’s your fault if you’re not feeling happy. As if you can instantly become happy by putting on a game-faced grimace.  If I tried that I reckon I’d look like a badly Botoxed accident victim.

No, a happy you year goes deeper than fake smiles, needles, and willpower. Your best chance of ever having a happy you year rests on you thinking about what you hold dear, That, and getting a better grip on who you really are. I talk about this in depth in my book, which is almost ready for release.  But for now, consider the impact of meaning in your life. What’s yours? And what can you do with 2012 that matters?

It might turn out to be a grueling year or a grand year. Either way, your happiness at a heartfelt level needn’t rely on the fickle winds of fortune to find its expression. Not if you immerse yourself in purposes you believe in and live out. Seek to avoid anything that conflicts. Instead, make what you do stand true to what is true for you.

That way, you having a happy you year won’t be so much a matter of luck. More a matter of realizing. When Benjamin Disraeli, the Nineteenth Century British Prime Minister said, “Life is too short to be small” I reckon he was saying you need to be someone you can believe in. Not easy. But then, nothing truly worthwhile ever is.



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