Happiness is a mystery, like religion, and should never be rationalised.

~ Gilbert K Chesterton ~

Why You Are Not Happy

May 9th, 2013 ~ Est. reading time: 2 mins, 11 secs

What makes people truly  happy?

What makes people truly happy?

No matter how happy you feel, chances are you want to be happier.  Given a great many people are actually unhappy most of the time, it’s a serious wish. So why is it that with all of our collected knowhow and clever technology so many of us feel so unhappy so often?

Could it be that we are looking in all the wrong places to find what we need? Or, is it a case of assuming we need to be happy in the first place when perhaps that’s not a realistic option?

There has been a rising tide over the last few years of thinkers questioning the standard line of happy advocates from the positive mental attitude camp (and – to some extent – positive psychology camp too). They are starting to wonder why an upbeat attitude has to be such a priority, and whether there’s too much emphasis on happiness at the expense of life’s broader spectrum of emotions.

Perhaps you might think this kind of scrutiny is cynical and that skeptics are missing the point. Then again, you may feel it’s high time the “happy, happy, happygiddy up culture of pressuring people to be blissful deserves to be unpacked.

Having spent some years studying happiness, I am glad the topic is getting attention. After all, we all want to be happy. Yet, ironically, most people spend more time and money annually on toilet paper than they do investing in finding their happiness.

Critics of the “you’ve got to be happy to win” mentality cast doubt over the formulaic ways promoted to achieve this venerated state. They also wonder why nobody talks about how hard it is to be forcibly happy all the time when it relies of sheer will.

The treadmill of chasing pleasures is, after all, self-limiting. No matter how triumphant you were about your shopping bargains last Saturday, after a week or two those natty shoes will find their place in the cupboard, gradually becoming part of the less than ecstatic background to your existence. Even if you could afford to keep on shopping every day or two, the pleasure would (eventually) wear off as we weary of the process.

That is to say, pleasure based happiness isn’t enough to endure. For that we need something else.

In my book, Happy – How To Have A Beautiful Life Now, I combine knowledge acquired through the ages by major faiths and belief systems to describe what happiness requires. Combined with the vital element of personal purpose, I have developed an approach to finding happiness that anyone can apply to any level they wish.

Unlike cheesy techniques, and corny 1,2,3 steps to being happy, I work though ideas that you can readily adopt, adapt, and then own for yourself.

There are many reasons why so many of us are not very happy. But it doesn’t have to be a permanent state. Read about it and think it through for yourself and you will find that you can have happiness that’s neither fleeting nor fickle. It’s hidden, but it’s in your hands.

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