True happiness consists in making others happy.

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Who Do You Want To Be?

July 3rd, 2013 ~ Est. reading time: 2 mins, 41 secs

It's your life, after all.

It’s your life, after all.

Life, according to TV, is asking you, “Who do you want to be?” Do you want to be playful, sweet, and carefree? Or, all smooth and sophisticated, exuding a confident style?

It’s okay. You don’t have to pick straight away. Public life allows you at least a few weeks. But choosing who you want to be ought to be a priority. After all, you surely don’t want to be a “nobody”?

That’s the take home message about you and your life. If you don’t augment, reshape, and reinvent, you’re not trying hard enough. With so many media channels, magazines, and websites as proof, there’s nothing to argue about.

Maybe you should change your face (it’s probably not up to scrutiny anyway). And, hey, the Spanish look is in. So why not try dyeing your hair, and putting on the right accent to give you that certain Castilian edge?

The point is, you better choose something, be it cheerful and appreciative, or swaggering and enthusiastic. Whatever! Just pick. Nobody cares who you are anyway so long as it looks good.

The question “Who do you want to be?” sums up a mindset that you and your life are a product. That’s behind why you better pick your brand. Standing out makes sense if you’re like a tin of baked beans. After all, who will have you if you don’t?

In a job market, thinking of the product value of your efforts actually makes sense. But, in more recent times, this has shifted toward visualizing us entirely as merchandise. It’s hard to fight such a strong tide that insists you have to look a certain way, act so, and say what fits. Teens, particularly, have been suffering through for years. But today, the dis-ease has spread so that children and adults alike are blighted with a feeling that unless they are the right kind of product they are not quite right.

I once read that adding a few million bucks in the hands of a madman suddenly means people see him as merely “eccentric”. With money (and fame), you are validated. With our modern day self-consciousness and anxiety about being nobodies, we adapt quite well into the reduced range of stereotypes on offer.

To be valuable, women must be stunningly gorgeous at all times (that’s a necessity). While men should be either sophisticated or rugged – anything less is a fail.

Life played out “correctly” in your allotted slot is meant to give you the best shot at a happy life. At least that’s what the television says. But of course that’s utter rot.

You are not a product. You look the way you do partly because of your ancestors and the life you’ve led. You can contribute to life in any way you care to, regardless what you look like and whether you are a stylish sophisticate or spend your entire time wandering around the house in your pajamas.

The question “Who do you want to be in life?” is all too easily about body sculpting and Botox. Or, turning your identity into a stand out can of buy me baked beans. Much better questions are “What can I do with my life?” “What have I got to give?”, and “How can I bring good into the world?”.

Suddenly, the whole product fiasco doesn’t matter. But what does, is that you find your abilities and deepest interests and turn them into a something of a personal mission, agenda, or tribute. It’s a whole new life ahead of you when you forget your limitations and focus on what you’ve got to contribute. As for who you want to be; well, I passionately hope that you want to be yourself and make the most of all the good that’s already in you.

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