True happiness comes from the joy of deeds well done, the zest of creating things new.

~ Antoine de Saint-Exupery ~

Who Are You, Really?

November 17th, 2012 ~ Est. reading time: 2 mins, 6 secs

There’s more to you than you know.

You might feel like you know pretty much everything there is to know about yourself. But that would be an illusion.

Which is why I ask the question: who are you, really? I know it sounds a bit silly. Yet, it’s good to reflect on the potential that you don’t really know everything about who you are. Because, not only is there much more to discover about that person called you, but you are also more capable too.

Having been imprinted with an impression of our selves, based on the assessment of our parents, we’ve built layers to support or refute those identity beliefs. Creating a personal construct that says who you are, you unknowingly paper over the gaps, so your impression seems complete.

That’s why you cannot completely rely on your senses. Psychologists, neuroscientists, and even magicians can tell you that. Our brain has a clever habit of filling in the gaps of our sensory experience. So that, glancing here and there, our vision gets mentally stitched together into one seamless whole (pretty clever, huh?).

That’s why magicians can seem to make magic appear. You don’t see because you were never looking in the first place. Only you don’t know that you’re not looking. Confusing? Definitely. But that’s the power of illusion.

You truly believe you know what you look like. Yet do you really?  Have you ever seen yourself fully in 3D? And what about the how you tilt your head forward as you eat, what you look like as you walk, and the sound you make when you’re sleeping?

Have you seen yourself from behind in all sorts of situations and positions? Or, do you have a mental impression based from just one angle? What about how you look from a ground eye view? Or even, from the top of you crown looking down?

These are, of course, merely physical features. But what about the way you treat yourself? Is it based on a balanced appreciation of who you really are? Quite likely, you are hard on yourself, finding more faults in what you think and do than anyone else does in you.

These aspects of your identity are difficult to measure with certainty. Yet I think you know what I mean. It’s important to accept that we don’t know everything about ourselves. Because, leaving room for possibilities is not only healthy, it’s more realistic.

If others see more good in you than you do. Or, you don’t believe you have the ability to improve, think again. There is much more to you than you can perceive. So if anyone is encouraging you, grab him or her by the hand and get a boost up. Allow for the possibility that there’s more to you than what you’ve discovered thus far. Because when you do, you’ll also find that you are capable of far more than you’ve come to suppose.

Attitude And How You Handle It

Being Your Real Self

Peace To You

  1. Zephyr says:

    How very true that we hardly know ourselves? Aren’t we often living in a illusory state about what we actually are? I can understand that we need to hold the hand of the one encouraging us. But what about those who discourage and malign us?

    • Feegs says:

      Thanks, Zephyr, for your thoughts on this subject. And my apologies for the delay in replying (Blame spam)!
      People who discourage and malign us are themselves acting in a dysfunctional manner. So we have a choice. Do we take that into account and water down what they are saying? Or, do we give the cruelty of their comments equality?