The happiness of this life depends less on what befalls you than the way in which you take it.

~ Elbert Hubbard ~

What’s Happy And What’s Not

December 3rd, 2012 ~ Est. reading time: 1 min, 59 secs

Can you be happy in the here and now?

Hands up if you thought being happy was a simple matter? Me too. But then, the more I started exploring aspects of happiness, the more involved it got. Being happy has a lot to it.

Head across to your nearest bookshop and you’ll find at a least a few books on the subject of how to be happy. For the most part, they’ll give you tips on how to feel brighter and happier more often. That’s fine of course, and we all can enjoy being buoyant more often. But happiness goes much deeper than that, doesn’t it?

Enter “satisfaction”. When it comes to being happy you can’t beat contentment. Even if you gathered up all your happy moments and stitched them together, they couldn’t match the ultimate happiness of satisfaction.

Not that happy fun and contentment are at odds with each other. They can definitely complement each other well. It’s just that these days there’s so much emphasis on grabbing more happy times and nowhere near enough about lasting satisfaction.

It’s kind of odd how many people pitch this kind of “get as many happy moments as you can” mantra. I guess, being readily digestible, and easy to swallow it’s popular. But I can’t help thinking, if that’s what they’re promoting, how happy can they be?

Appearing happy when you are anything but isn’t good. Aside from being obliged to seem pleased because it’s your job, forcing yourself to appear happy is terribly undermining.  Yes, it might impress others, and, yes, it can improve your appearance (Though some try to be happy types look a little like deranged cats to me!). But it’s inherently negative. Because a satisfying life demands nothing less than self-honesty.

A woman asked me recently, “Can you make me happy?” and I replied, “yes” and “no”.  “’Yes’, if you just want to have a laugh and feel better. “’No’, unless you are willing to do a few things to find your own satisfaction.” Needless to say, she didn’t understand the last part. She only wanted me to make her laugh.

Being happy, I’ve decided, is a surprisingly serious business, but in a wonderfully good way. It’s about discovering more about your self, how you tick, and what you can do that gives your life “zing”.

Nobody can be perpetually happy in a bouncy, excited way. But you can be “happy satisfied” most of the time when you find your place in life.

There’s more, of course. Lots. If you read my book, I believe you’ll know more about being happy than most people will ever know. Yet, knowing is only the first step. True happiness finds its fullest expression when our insights are applied.

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