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The True Love Calculation Lie

December 25th, 2012 ~ Est. reading time: 2 mins, 4 secs

Do true love calculations take height into consideration?

You cannot have a happy marriage using anything that claims to offer a genuine true love calculation. I’m sorry to be so blunt, but that’s it.

Think of it like this. Somebody wants someone else to love them and they even have a guy in mind. Will he be Mr Right? Or, will some mystic true love calculation reveal Mr Right to be oh so wrong?

The truth of any good relationship is not in calculations and scheming. In themselves, they already hint at something drastically wrong from the start. Finding your life long lover is not discerned by some crude checklist but by the heart and some simple sense. So what can a supposedly “true love calculation” offer? In my opinion: nothing worth your bother.

The well intentioned, unscrupulous, and the misguided alike believe giving you pat answers about how to have a lasting, happy relationship is a matter of predictability and mystic guidance. But how can that be when life presents difficulties and experiences that only we can interpret? No other person on Earth can know what you feel. Nor, can they know precisely what you will think in the future.

So what good can any supposed true love calculation do? Well, at best, it could highlight common areas of interest, habits, and more importantly, values. These ingredients are all beneficial to the mix. Yet, this is hardly rocket science, is it? I mean, asking “Do you like kids?” (“I like kids”),Do you have a faith?” (“I have a faith”), requires nothing exotic. Just the willingness to ask, listen, and consider.

Generally speaking, if a man is willing to defer to his partner and show gentility and loving respect, that’s already a home run. If both partners show acceptance, honesty, forgiveness, forbearance, and wisdom… well you know what I’m going to say. And nobody needs any true love calculation codes for that.

Inevitably, however, some people prefer believing that life can be controlled by manipulation or secret observation. Then, they can either compel a lover or at least analyze their actions to decide if they are the “answer to their dreams”. Why do they do this? Because it seems easier to trust in the pseudo analysis of some mystic true love calculation than becoming more kind, caring, honest, and forgiving. But the reality is life doesn’t reward calculating scheming with love. Instead, what we focus on tends to be what we see and what others see in us.

Commit to people you admire, respect, and adore, and they are much more likely to like you back.  If you don’t have someone in your life to love (but you want to), scheming is not the answer. My Acme True Love Calculation Pop Your Cork Monitor confirms it. Instead, the more we love life with beauty in our heart, words, and deeds, the more we attract people who appreciate those qualities. Magic isn’t it?

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