The 7 Myths Of Happiness
1. “If you are happy you will always be excited”
Thankfully, you won’t and that’s just as well. People on drugs experience a heightened state of elation for up to a few days before crashing into painful despair. We are naturally meant to experience a range of feeling states, and that’s a good thing.
Besides which, happiness and feeling happy can be two different things.
2. “The rich are the happiest people of all”
You might think so, seeing all the glitz and glamor that the media showcases. But then, aren’t these the people who grapple with power plays, high-pressure investments, marriage breakdowns, and a lack of privacy? Riches are fine. But they cannot generate sustained happiness, which cannot be bought, no matter how much cash and status is available.
3. “You need to be very attractive to be really happy”
Funnily enough, supermodels lament about their weight or some other physical issues, and worry about how long their looks will last. While this rare 2 per cent of the population ought to be supremely happy, if physical beauty is the key criteria, they know it takes more than that to bring lasting contentment.
4. “Happy people are lucky people”
“All the cards fall the right way for them because they are just luckier than everybody else”. Though it might seem that way, happy people don’t depend on circumstances to determine their satisfaction. With a life rich in purpose and character, contented people create a climate of good will around them that luck could never do. Although they might create some of their luck, happy people don’t depend on it.
5. “Happiness is just an attitude”
Actually happiness is bigger than that. Through creativity, caring, kindness, and wisdom, you can generate a great deal of satisfaction. But add the extra ingredient of personal meaning and happiness becomes a way of living. If anything, attitude fits inside that kind of happiness, not the other way round.
6. “Popularity is the key to being happy”
Sure, it’s lovely to be popular. But I doubt that the Queen of England would base her happiness on how many likes she received on her Facebook page. Princess Diana, too, was spectacularly popular. But it didn’t bring her satisfaction. Without a sense of inner contentment, happiness for all of us will always prove elusive.
7. “You’ve got to be a high achiever to be happy”
Thank goodness that’s not true! You don’t have to be superhuman to be happy – just authentically you. With qualities of character and good reasons to contribute, you certainly deserve to be happy.
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