Scallywag

If you are not allowed to laugh in heaven, I don't want to go there.

~ Martin Luther ~

Thank You for the Glue Stick

January 31st, 2012 ~ Est. reading time: 1 min, 16 secs

Thank you!

Saying thank you is no hardship. Yet, you would think it was, given how some people display such a violent reaction to saying it. This kind of unease about saying thank you obviously starts early. When young children don’t see it modeled at home, or it’s consistently absent in their wider community, kids skip such pleasantries. Like an old-fashioned option warranting no attention, the idea of saying “thank you” won’t rate a mention.

That is, unless patient parents and teachers keep insisting. But why bother with such a well-worn expression in the first place?  Isn’t it time we got to the point and skipped all the niceties? I don’t think so. In fact, I know so. Thank you is more than some quaint civic dainty. Easily applied in any situation, saying thank you is a potent social lubricant that helps people recognize, respect, and get on.

That’s the point.

After all, there’s no substitute for manners, is there? Without them, there’s friction, built on grudging compliance. Thank you, therefore, is the first stop on the journey of courtesy. A step toward realizing that others have needs of equal value to yours.

Most people don’t get there, of course. They don’t go much further than polishing up their appeal.  So that appreciation gets embellished into sayings like “Why thank you oh so very, very, very much” followed by an “Oh you’re so very, very welcome.” As if manners are merely a game of ping-pong obligation.

Me, I prefer a genuine thank you over anything veneered.  When you feel real feelings there’s no need to embellish anything.  Wherever and whatever, I believe a simple thank you will do.  By letting the gratitude of your feelings express the rest, your appreciation will find its way through what you do.

Thank you.

Feegs

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