People can be challenging, can’t they? Those you know and love can be difficult enough. But there are also those in your outer circle, who you might describe as “oafs”.
What’s an oaf? They are the kind who, being ignorant of people’s sensibilities, stomp about leaving a mess behind. Trampling through relationships, they’re like a bull in a china shop, completely heedless to the damage they do.
Oafish people are everywhere. But the ones that give you most grief are of course the ones you have to deal with. As people, they aren’t really badly intentioned. It’s just that their actions, manners, and lack of awareness cause extensive damage.
Of course, it’s hard to feel particularly happy when you need to deal with people like that because they can undermine you at any time. One moment, you can be working in a state of cooperation. Next, they can ride roughshod over you with rough-edged aggression.
Now, as much as we might like things to change our way, difficult people will always be with us. So either we are going to find a way to work together, or we will forever be destined to fall into locking horns.
Which is to say the thoughtful find ways to overcome the obstacles such people present. That’s why I’ve included 7 more clues to handle the situation:
- 1. Practice wise blindness. You don’t have to be right all the time. So it’s okay to let things go (at least sometimes) – even if you feel people are patently wrong.
- 2. As much as you can, avoid people’s schemes if they don’t feel right to you. Working outside your value set is always risks conflict. So stick to what you believe is true.
- 3. Try seeing people who irritate you in a new way at least now and then. Let go of your expectations and see what else you can observe about them that seems constructive.
- 4. Put pettiness into perspective. For every person who drives you batty there are a multitude who are uplifting, encouraging, warm, and accepting.
- 5. Listen more and say less. Predictably, oafish folk are terrible listeners who often talk over others because their points are always more “important”. Resist the temptation to correct (except when it’s crucial) and simply let them be themselves.
- 6. You are not responsible for the trouble some people make in your life so why let it define you? Instead, choose to separate yourself from destructive comments and actions by living according to what you believe.
- 7. Realise too that we are all human. Because we all have frailties and make mistakes, none of us can be proud or haughty without looking foolish. Rather than becoming judge and jury, our best is revealed when we deal with challenging people in an even-handed way.
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