To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.

~ Oscar Wilde ~

Motivation Matters Most

October 21st, 2011 ~ Est. reading time: 1 min, 15 secs

You want me to do what?

How many times have you tried to get a teen to try harder, only to find they won’t? Teachers and parents alike know that merely telling a teenager to do something is nothing. It’s what they end up doing that matters.

Yes it was easier in the old days because people did a lot of things out of duty. But now? You’d have to be thick to think the average teen will apply themselves simply because we say so. They need to have their own reasons.  Which is why motivation matters most.

Motivation? How much motivation does a kid need to clean their room? Just tell ‘em to do it and don’t settle for less until it’s done. Trading on threat, this kind of SCUD missile diplomacy was never very accurate. It just ups the stakes (and the tension), and ends up blasting a nasty hole in family harmony. Family warfare is a messy way of tidying shelves and clearing the clothing off the “floor-drobe.”

Same with school. Teachers with nous know you don’t just threaten kids to work. You need to inspire their motivation. Some will scoff, but motivation really is the biggest issue of all.

Consider yourself as an example. Why should you master public speaking, learn five languages, and scuba dive this Saturday if you have no motivation to do so? We used to think kids couldn’t decide what they want. Not true. They may not have all the cards they need in life. But they know how to choose what to pick up and put down.

Motivation is king. So promote the benefits for everything you’d like your teens to do. Is this too much? Perhaps. But how else are they ever going to clean their room?



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