Scallywag

To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom.

~ Bertrand Russell ~

Meet The Creep

November 10th, 2013 ~ Est. reading time: 1 min, 35 secs

How do you handle creeps?

How do you handle creeps?

“Darling, there’s a creep here to see you. Says he wants to use you by exploiting everything you’ve got”.

That’s what sets aside the creep from other people. Slinking, skulking creeps are defined by their usury. It goes with the territory.

While other people recognize you for who you are as a person, your typical creep objectifies you. To a creep, others are “objects” to be used. Not people with an identity and intrinsic value.

Such antisocial sorts seem to fall into two camps. Either they are incapable in their present state of being able to effectively relate to anyone else. Or, they are deliberately abusive because in a twisted way it pleases them.

Folk who through one reason or another struggle to make healthy associations with others often have an impoverished view of life. Not surprisingly, they themselves can feel they are on the outside, frustrated, and incapable of forming satisfying relationships.

Really, it’s a social disability that is all too easily reinforced (ironically) when we label people as “creeps”. So, in a broad sense, they are stuck a vicious circle that keeps them socially impaired.

Not that these thoughts run through you mind when somebody is trying to use you. But it’s relevant to know from a point of view of power. Those who abuse others can seem to have the upper hand. When really, they are the ones incapable of maintaining satisfactory relationships.

We can demonize them, but these people are stuck in a cycle of inadequacy and ineptitude that needs redirection (often via professional help). The wife bashers, and the habitual womanizer, for example, have baggage that a hardnosed moral lecture is never going to help.

Does that mean they are merely misunderstood and we ought to gloss away their pernicious behavior? Not one bit. But it does help to unravel what drives this antisocial action.

Regrettably, there will always be creeps. Yet, while we cannot eliminate the problem, we can at least recognize the signs and – sometimes – the drivers behind such behavior. Yet, our part is not fixing every dysfunctional person we meet, but to treat everyone with dignity and to remember that we all share our common humanity.

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