Scallywag

I always wanted a happy ending ... Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems don't rhyme, and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle and end.

~ Gilda Radner ~

Love That Works

June 19th, 2012 ~ Est. reading time: 2 mins, 10 secs

How do you define real life love that works?

This is rather personal, but… do you experience a real life love that works? Not the love that lasts only as long as looks last. That one evaporates way too easily. Same with the love that lingers, so long as there’s still some spring in the credit cards and cash account. Nice having it, of course. But hardly the kind of love that keeps people together through thick and thin.

So what do we know about love that works? What does it look, feel, and sound like? Who gives it, and how can you get it? To explore this further, for a moment, I want you to picture in your mind what true love is for you. Close your eyes, get comfortable, and let your muscles relax. Then, let your imagination take over to answer those questions from your own perspective. Try it (and I’ll happily wait for you at the start of the next paragraph).

Ah, you’re back (at least, I hope you took the time to reflect). Not much point reading on regardless because the meat of this message is really in your thinking. At least do this exercise at the end, okay? Take the time to consider what love that works is really like on your terms. If you’re still unsure, take it further and talk it over with someone close (because, I believe, it’s important).

For my part, the kind of love that works best is dependable, strong, and enduring. It isn’t into petty nitpicking, or impatient foot-tapping. It waits. And though, robust, it is incredibly gentle and forgiving of flaws. You can live life to the fullest with that kind of love. When it embraces you, everything is easier to bear, and you in turn find it easier to give it to others.

Still, that’s academic if you’ve never known the kind of love that works in your own life. Unless it touches you and tenderly moves you, it’s just another thing to miss and feel bitter about. If that’s true then I’m sorry. I don’t mean to annoy you. Just to hoist the flag for something that brings an inestimable amount of happiness to everyone who discovers it. You deserve that kind of love and, dare I say, you ought to expect it.

Yet, if it’s missing, how can you find love that works like that in your own life? As a fan of things homemade, I suggest creating some yourself. If you want love, keep “baking” it at home and sharing it freely with all the folk you know. Simplistic? Sounds like it. But earning a reputation for warmth, strong acceptance, and patient forgiveness is about as “plain” as casually doing a back flip in your seat. It takes surprising skill to develop our ability to love so graciously. Yet, as difficult as it is, love so complete seasons everything. So with that in mind, I’d like to propose a toast: here’s to your extraordinary life!

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