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It’s A Worry

September 6th, 2013 ~ Est. reading time: 2 mins, 46 secs

Yes, you can even worry about your pets.

Yes, you can even worry about your pets.

Yes, worry. You might as well, especially as there are so many things to worry about.

First, there’s your general list. Are you okay paying off your home and those other debts? If you lost your job, what then?

Is the house adequately insured? What about the contents? Now, confess: do you really understand all the fine print? And, should you be worried about the way your financial affairs are sorted out in terms of your will? As they like to say, you can’t be too careful tomorrow and today.

How about the property maintenance? Is everything as it should be? Could you improve your storage? And, what about getting your garden looking it’s magnificent best?

Now, how about that personal list? Are you worried about your body? What about your health? Are you eating proper meals and getting enough sleep?

These things will undoubtedly have an effect on your complexion. So what are you doing about skincare? Is the night mask treatment working well? Or, is it time to try another skin regime.

Will your holidays be as good this year? Or, should you think about picking something else? Especially as there’s so much that could go wrong.

Also, how about your wardrobe? Are your clothes as they should be? And what about your shoes?

There’s so much to worry about that it’s enough to drive you batty. But that’s how it is.

Hang on, there’s some other stuff I forgot. Your car for instance. What kind of maintenance and care does it need right now, and is there anything you should be worrying about that you have not yet thought of?

While we’re at it, how about your kid’s education? What about their friends? Is everything turning out right, or are things not going to plan?

Worries are everywhere. Yet, so many of our concerns are “First World” in nature, meaning people in poorer nations would be wondering why they concern us at all.

A hundred years or so ago people had very different issues to worry about and it’s fair to say that times were considerably tougher. But we still worry, don’t we? It’s as if we feel that, somehow, we ought to.

Surely, being concerned, and caring for people, things, and situations are good things to do. But worry? Isn’t that more like an anxiety response (implying we cannot control these situation)?

Unease and apprehension do you no good. That’s why you are better off putting everything into perspective. For starters, unless it’s a matter of life or dying, it probably doesn’t deserve the torment.

Likewise, fear and fretting don’t improve anything (being the mental equivalent to jogging on the spot. You feel busy but it doesn’t take you anywhere.

So putting worry into perspective is a healthy thing. We are oversupplied with all manner of things to fret about. Yet worry never helped anything. Better to take action or let go of whatever is causing you trepidation.

Now I know. That’s way too easy to say and far harder to do. Still, if your mind is occupied in positive activity, worrying feels less natural.

Though we could all give over to the force of our fears, it’s better to remember the distraction factor and occupy your mind with something more productive. No doubt you’ll find new stuff to worry about. Yet, one wonderful byproduct will be that you’ll discover that the stuff you worry over isn’t nearly so crucial as it seemed to be.

As misplaced hyper vigilance that we learn to apply, believing it will help us survive, worry is often fruitless and only feeds distress. If you want to enjoy life more, let go of the burden of feeling worry bound and allow for more balanced possibilities. True, things could  start getting worse. But, equally, they could also get a whole lot better.

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