I’m decisive. I think. At least, compared to some other people I know. Then again, there are those go-getters who have this whole decision-making thing sewn up. While I remain, floundering.
This whole procrastination business is a big deal, even if people prefer not to admit it. After all, umpteen forms of entertainment provide us with handy camouflage. Plus, they will happily distract you from everything you really need to do. Thanks to TV, DVDs, stuff online, hesitancy and procrastination has never been so easy.
You can sidestep relationship problems, dodge decisions about your financial situation, and avoid the effort it takes to develop your personal skills (and all without even getting off the couch). Which begs the question: why do we demonstrate so much indecision in the first place?
Well, obviously, there’s that ticklish issue called commitment. Do that and factors like obligation kick in (And don’t we all detest that?). But there are others aspects too.
Due to its easygoing appearance, indecision is attractively habit forming. So much so that it can feel completely natural to want others to do the deciding for you rather than risk making a mistake and losing face.
Yet it is this very vulnerability that puts us most at risk. By deferring decision-making to others we restrict our own growth and keep blocking our opportunities (something decisive readers know only too well).
Understandably, cults and domineering leaders trade on this desire to appease rather than risk disapproval. While, salespeople shape their spiel according to how customers deliberate over making basic decisions.
Apart from those times when we really ought to think things over, wait and see what happens next, or sleep on it, the problem of indecision might, possibly, perhaps (if you say so) be one of the most limiting behaviors we choose to display.
As comical and ironic as it is that the very act of indecision is itself a decision, this aversion to reaching conclusions has serious consequences. We can avoid achieving much of anything noteworthy, cripple our confidence, and crush our competence – all thanks to this matter of habit.
If you are anything like me, decisions don’t always come easily. At least, not in following on. That of course is the way you know a real decision has been made because clarity always compels you to follow through.
To counter hesitancy, I say become aware of it. Watch and hear the way you handle matters that require a definite response. You will find indecision appears on surprising occasions, from matters utterly trivial to quite pivotal. Just become conscious of the way you do or don’t and consider if it’s really serving you. Chances are, a dedicated approach to this will change your life.
Study your patterns, and feel free to take notes if you like. By mindfully deciding what needs to be faced and what can legitimately be left to let go you will begin to deal with all those little issues sapping your energy.
So actively choose to tackle indecision your self and discover how empowering it feels. While, there will always be risks, there is no telling what positive spinoffs your choices will bring (if you take action instead of waiting for someone or something else to set your agenda for you). Now that you’ve read this, it’s time to decide.
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