Scallywag

Fatherhood is pretending the present you love most is soap-on-a-rope.

~ Bill Cosby ~

If You’re Happy And You Know It You Do All Three

July 28th, 2012 ~ Est. reading time: 1 min, 51 secs

If you’re truly happy then you’ll know it.

If you’re happy and you know it you have peace. For those who have the exquisite pleasure of knowing why they do what they do, happiness is a byproduct that lingers throughout their life. Not as a constant state, because living has its ups and downs. But more as a background that infuses everything with calm and reason. Unlike the “put on a happy face to impress” approach, there’s a depth to inner peace. That’s one reason so few ever show it.

If you’re happy and you know it you have love. Maybe not the smooth sailing image of love that we keep getting fed, but love all the same. Even if they’re not in a relationship, happy people know how to love and they apply it. How? By loving others around them with patience, tenderness, and affection. By loving their kids and taking an interest in their kid’s eye view. By loving the folk down the road who need someone to keep an eye out and care. And, most powerfully, by loving the ones others think are unlovable; showing that stubborn love reaches higher than typical thinking can go.

If you’re happy and you know it you are real. To know that you are capable, with all your abundant flaws, to do good is all the reason you need to be real. For people who know happiness, it’s natural to use whatever they have to make their life a blessing. But for those of us who struggle with feelings of inadequacy it’s a scary and challenging prospect. After all, being real carries the emotional risk of rejection. Somehow, in our relationship transactions we find our comfort zone. A level of disclosure that varies from person to person where we share something real, but hold back the rest for self-preservation.

If you’re happy and you know it, life is remarkably different to an experience peppered with self-doubt, anxiety, and trouble. But for all of us who struggle with unhappiness, I believe life can at least be a little sweeter. You don’t need to be patronized with directions to clap your hands, stamp your feet, and give a smile (at least, not a fake one). Happiness, being multilayered, comes more naturally through a process of knowing. Think about what is dear to you and, by understanding what you love, you start to discover more about your own purpose. Through meaning that makes personal sense, we can make our life count. In so doing, the potential of happiness beckons. When it does then, by degrees, not only will you know it your life will surely show it.

 

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