Who do you think of when you’re in trouble? Your friends of course. If you said your family, partner or parents, that also makes sense. Aside from sharing that extra bond they are friends of a kind too.
What they all share is that deep loyalty that goes way beyond affection. A true friend will down tools, and do whatever it takes to be there for you when you really need them. That’s friendship when it counts.
Can you have lots of friends? Sure. Thousands if you like, and they are all great to have. But, typically, it’s the one or two friends closest to you that touch you the most. Friends who understand you, and enjoy being with you, even when you are less than fun to be with.
They don’t need entertaining. Instead, they’ll help you clean up after your parties, comfort you through your tears, and safely let you bare your soul. Because they love you.
A few people, a happy fortunate few, enjoy the friendship of their life partner. That is a privilege beyond words. But having someone, anyone, care for us is really all we need. After all, everyone needs a friend, don’t they? Not least because we learn how to be one through one.
Good friends look out for each other. Sure there are times when it’s a one-way affair. But eventually, the balance of giving comes back to the middle to support good relationship.
To me, the best of friends have an equality about the way they relate to each other. Not a leader and a follower, but people taking turns in the process of putting sense into life.
Sharing a laugh and speaking your mind without holding back is one of friendship’s delicious fruits. You can be as silly or as earnest as you want to be, and it’s all okay. Even good.
Being supported when you are down is more than comfort, it’s sweet luxury. That feeling of being completely vulnerable but knowing, despite it all, your friend accepts you.
Basking in friendship warmth, you sometimes get the feeling you could conquer the world, don’t you? As if friendship gives us the power to break through all our bonds.
You and I need to know that kind of friendship, whether in tear-filled laughter or the height of despair. Just as we, by the courage of our own honest caring have the unique ability to provide it.