Scallywag

True happiness comes from the joy of deeds well done, the zest of creating things new.

~ Antoine de Saint-Exupery ~

How Rude!

February 10th, 2013 ~ Est. reading time: 2 mins, 6 secs

Rude behavior is a weird way to achieve results..

A lot of problems come from people being plain rude. You can dress it up all you like, but being rude is bad mannered, selfish, and always ugly. Which (bottom line) means they never “cut the mustard”.

When a well-known ABC newsreader in Sydney was racially abused for a solid 15 minutes on a bus recently, the issue got press. As the rude passenger got ever louder, the bus driver directed the newsreader to move somewhere else with his two-year-old daughter to resolve the drama. Yet, strangely, he let the foul-mouthed passenger remain.

Accordingly, Jeremy Fernandez, the TV newsreader, described it as a “Rosa Parks moment” (after the African-American woman who refused to yield her seat for a white person and, inadvertently, sparked the 1955 US civil rights movement). Instead of kowtowing, he refused to leave his seat because he was being vilified.

Today, all sorts of elaborate terms are used to describe bad behavior, including:

  • Racial vilification
  • Ageism
  • Racial discrimination
  • Gender discrimination
  • Workplace harassment
  • Religious discrimination

to name but a few. But they all boil down to one thing: being rude.

That might seem like an oversimplification. But when you consider that the basis for these behaviors is a lack of respect and courtesy, the term rude is apt.

To me, treating people well is a matter above manners. It is an approach to life that goes beyond “live and let live”. We all deserve to be treated well.  Yet when people are truly rude they break that understanding and, in doing so, undermine their own privilege of good treatment too.

Calling these behaviors rude makes it easy for everyone to understand, regardless of age or background. For, we all have a sense of what is kind and respectful and what isn’t. Rudeness is poor form, ugly, and typically scrapes the bottom of the barrel for the worst it can dredge up (like abusive swear words, and other belittling behaviors).

Thankfully, we don’t need to own this rubbish. Though laced with fear and prejudice, racism and religious intolerance are tied to rude attitudes. Just as bad manners amplify resentments, lacking the safety net values that would shrink from boorish behavior allow its expression.

Abusive bullies like this kind of stuff. So being rude for them is standard fare. In their eyes, being offensive isn’t a transgression. It’s merely a means to an end.

So, next time somebody is especially rude, see it for what it is. If they are chronically rude it’s clear they lack the moral compass to see others as equals and treat them well too. You could even say disrespectful people aren’t fully “cooked” – still having a lot of growing up to do to become mature adults. That’s why you need to remember: it’s not you it’s them. Reasonable people don’t make a habit of choosing to be rude.

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