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How Good is Your Communication?

November 23rd, 2011 ~ Est. reading time: 1 min, 41 secs

As Daisy Khan demonstrated, communication isn't always as easy as it looks.

Let me guess. Your communication skills are very good if not excellent.

Why? Well, for starters, you can read. Beyond which you are obviously tuned into social needs to be reading this blog. And, you are likely to be someone who considers communication to be important at all of life’s levels.

Then again, I could be wrong…

Most of us tend to regard our capacity for communication to be more than acceptable. So how come cases of poor communication are so frequent?

Many a domestic issue arises from a lack of communication or common misunderstandings. Confusion spirals out of control so easily we can fall into fighting in a matter of minutes.

The same is true in public life. Wherever people feel their ego is under threat, miscommunication emerges and often blocks the way to cooperation and solutions.

So how do you make sure your communication is up to scratch? What makes some people masters of communication while others demonstrate so much social clumsiness?

You probably have a range of good answers already. But here are a three more to add to the mix:

  1. What appears to be the most passive form of communication turns out to be the most active. Listening is the great secret of every good communicator. Also, the more you do it, the better you become at listening.
  2. Focus, too, is a crucial factor. By concentrating on the person talking to you and ignoring all else, you can home in on much more than words. Seeing how they say things gives you volumes of extra information that words alone can’t communicate.
  3. Holding back until the whole story is told keeps your awareness open. Rather than passing judgement too soon, withhold opinion until everything that can be told, has been said. By blocking our eagerness to make quick decisions, we allow added information to come through. This can be crucial to avoid misunderstandings that come from getting only part of the particulars.

The more we try to understand each another the greater our capacity for good communication. The problems come when our agendas take priority over being open to listen. You could say, well that’s life. But I suggest no matter what we need to do, we can always leave at least a little space for each other to communicate as human beings. That not only boosts the calibre of our communication, it also enhances life.


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