He who knows that enough is enough will always have enough.

~ Lao-Tzu (604 BC - 531 BC) ~

Haughty or Humble How About Qualities?

January 7th, 2012 ~ Est. reading time: 1 min, 48 secs

Haughty or humble it's our qualities that count.

Open a magazine. Make it fashion. Chances are it’ll have a certain “screw you” air to it. An arrogance that says “Even if you want this stuff you can’t afford it.” Nice.

Welcome to the “standard model” (if you’re a physicist, please forgive me).  It’s the common expectation that arrogance is fine and being humble is, well, weak.

It’s a given that modern heroes will give the finger to their enemies and triumph with proud revenge. There’s no grace. No level-headedness. Just an excess of self-importance. Indeed, some people insist on teaching it. Think job interviews (just wing it with all the audacity you’ve got). Or dating (act sassy and cool). With enough swagger you can get away with anything.

Well some people certainly can create an air of superiority. I have to admit I’ve personally never been good at that. Feet too grounded in real life to stand about posing. But I can see it works for some at least.

Yet somewhere in the rush to get attention, people have forgotten qualities that should never be lost. Personal qualities, like compassion and fortitude, matter. No matter how big the head, how cold the conceit, or how puffed-up the pride, we cannot escape the essential need for qualities. And you’re right. We can’t fake them.

Personally, I am weary of show without substance. Scratch a bit under the surface of the haughty and vain and what do you find? Not much. Aside from an underlying desperateness to be validated. Beyond that there’s an embarrassing void that makes you want to look away.

Thankfully there are plenty of people with the character to be out there and up front, and still have something to them. They are easy to appreciate for all the right reasons.

But whether we seek the limelight or not, I believe you don’t need to be anyone but your good self. So if you aren’t the public persona type, that’s okay. There is room for everyone to make their life count. For example, if you’re humble then you can get things done without fuss and be an achiever.  You won’t need to spend time posturing because your efforts and ideas say it all.

The crucial ingredient is not how daring you happen to be but your qualities. Apply them and you will make a mark on life. Public or private it will count, and that is the point. You being you, expressing your best for good reason, is the most profound achievement you will ever make.




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