Do You Feel Unappreciated?
Being unappreciated. Its familiarity reveals indifference has reached plague proportions.
Feeling unappreciated is such a familiar theme in couple relationships it’s a cliché. But disregard goes a lot further than that, doesn’t it?
Parents, do you feel unappreciated for all the work you do bring your offspring up? Like all those sleepless nights caring for sick kids; those anxious medical visits, fretting about their happiness, and tending to their nearest whim. In the end, how many (mothers especially) end up feeling like a slave, as the not so little kids in the family learn to dictate terms? Yet telling them about the situation won’t impress them. If anything, it seems strange and alien to them that you start complaining about your parental job. Because, as they like to remind you, it was your choice after all.
Then there’s that thing where you run around like a headless chicken and they pay you for it. Ah yes, what about at work? How often do your best efforts go unappreciated or, worse, met with contempt? That time you spent hours trying to do something new to make a real improvement didn’t even get a mention. Or, perhaps, it was viewed as just you “wasting” time.
Indifference can be soul destroying. Not least because being unappreciated estranges us from others, leaving a strong sensation of loneliness and feeling misunderstood.
Were the world a better place it would mean all of us showing a lot more appreciation all round. We would thank people more often, and actively seek out opportunities to show our thankfulness – as a matter of habit.
Well I’m happy to tell you that we can make the world that little bit better right now (and we don’t need anyone’s permission to do it). Your capacity to express appreciation is one of your greatest gifts and the more you share it, the more impact you have.
Though it’s difficult to conjure up appreciation when others are offering you nothing, you can start afresh and set the scene with the power of your own gratitude. Your lack is actually a clear signal revealing what you yourself can do.
If there is a severe lack of gratitude in your life start creating your own and give it away in abundance. Besides being marvelously empowering in itself, as the steak knife ads say, “But wait! There’s more”.
The more you turn your eyes towards the efforts of others, the more likely that same gratitude is going to wing it’s way back to you. Not so much directly or even through obvious means. But through unforeseen ways that are bound to surprise you.
Do you often find yourself feeling deeply unappreciated? Well now is the time to decide, enough is more than enough. From now on, be the example of gratitude you longed for yourself, and show people how sincere appreciation is “done”.
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