Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true happiness.

~ Bertrand Russell ~

Brittle Attitude Disease

February 5th, 2013 ~ Est. reading time: 1 min, 45 secs

What do you mean I’ve got a bad attitude?

Brittle Attitude Disease, or B.A.D. for short, is a nasty business. It can strike unexpectedly in the friendliest of situations. Then, suddenly, everything goes awry.

Typical symptoms of Brittle Attitude Disease include:

  1. Shortness of temper
  2. Curt replies
  3. Catty comments, either written or spoken
  4. Hostile or contemptuous looks
  5. Sarcasm, and
  6. Self-righteous defiance.

Jumping to negative conclusions after the first slight, people evidencing bad attitude lock into a set of behaviors that usually ruin everything for everyone else.

The cost of a bad attitude is enormous (though I’m not sure if anyone has actually measured it empirically). If it’s prolonged, relationships bog down, jobs can be lost, and opportunities can be missed – all for the sake of people getting flakey.

While people presenting with Brittle Attitude Disease are the perpetrators they’re also the victims as they ruin their own prospects in the process. Once in the bad attitude groove things can all too easily get worse. And, as things deteriorate, there’s even more to complain about. Such is the nature of criticism out of control.

Nearly every one of us has a bad attitude attack now and then. It’s easy to feel justified by it and, on the surface, savor its (false) sense of control. But the high personal and social cost of a bad attitude makes it worth avoiding or, at least, learning how to manage.

Unlike the ads that tell you that you need to have smooth, soft, supple skin, I recommend developing a hide like an elephant! If it’s thick enough, it will better protect you by making  you less sensitive to barbed remarks and sarcastic tactics. Let people throw a tantrum or pitch their bad attitude. If your skin is thick enough, you won’t even flinch, let alone snap back.

Brittle Attitude Disease is so common, you can expect to come across it often. So it stands to reason that you better develop some good strategies to handle it. No point getting immediately upset when you can save that for the third attempt. Let people be rude, at least for a while. If they keep it up long enough, then maybe you can wade in as you see fit. But if let your fuse run long you’ll spare yourself a lot of B.A.D. bother. Besides, if you keep your happiness out of harm’s way, you’ll be able to enjoy it a lot more.

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