Teachers open the door. You enter by yourself.

~ Chinese Proverb ~

Affirming You

November 22nd, 2014 ~ Est. reading time: 1 min, 38 secs

Affirming is Just another gift you happen to have.

Affirming is just another gift you happen to have.

I’d like to affirm and encourage you  to keep doing the good that you do. I’m sure you don’t get nearly enough encouragement. So isn’t it about time you got a lot more recognition?

Sigh! If you’ve been thinking about the lack of appreciation you’ve been getting, I understand. But you can’t wait for other people to take notice and give you the kind of praise and affirmation you crave. You’ve got to make your own efforts count.

Affirming people is a remarkable thing to do. It can be as simple as a smile, a look, or a nod. Or, it can be an all out public statement, declaring the good we see in somebody else.

When you choose to affirm people around you, something rather marvelous happens to you. Some will notice afresh just how lovely you are too. While, others who get your acceptance will look to you with newfound respect.

Why? Because people don’t praise and affirm others nearly enough. You know that, because of how you are treated. So choosing to make a statement by recognizing the value in others and what they do is potent.

You can of course expect a few folk to be suspicious. Getting an affirming comment can be so rare for some that it feels foreign and so they might question its authenticity. But that’s no reason to avoid encouraging.

This magical process of focusing on others and searching for their strengths has the added advantage of taking our attention away from ourselves (and, sometimes, that’s a relief in itself). Surprisingly, forgetting about your self can be liberating.

So go ahead. Absorb your thoughts in listening to somebody as if you’ve never heard them before. Imagine you know next to nothing about that someone you love and discover them afresh. Then tell them about the beauty that you see and encourage them with the recognition that only you can give.

Affirming people is a hidden strength that carries immeasurable clout. It doesn’t matter what you look like, how much money you haven’t (!), or anything else you lack. Just give your perceptive attention and share it with encouragement. Doing that makes your life have impact.

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